Counseling in Charleston, South Carolina.
But alas, each child and family has a unique story and personality. Brene Brown talks about how you can’t want something for your child that you don’t have for yourself. You can’t want your child to be any more confident than you are. You can’t want your child to be any more shame-resilient than you are. It starts with you!
I have heard it said so many times that “the most important gift you can give your kids is your own healing.”
Sometimes as parents, we are just too close to it and we need an outside eye. We need someone who can see what is going on. Child therapy can be a way to help the parents have tools and validation that their kid is good but is going through a tough time. Dr Becky Kennedy talks so much about this in her book, “Good Inside.”
As a mom (and a therapist mom!), it is so easy to panic and worry that we are screwing up our kids and that they will never be ok. But having someone look at my kid and say, “She is just doing that because she is 4” is so helpful for me.
Therapy for kids is a way to model for them when the stakes are low that getting help is ok. Early on in my career when I was working with a lot of kids, I would try to remember….just give them a positive experience so that when they are 25 and really need help they think back “about that therapist lady Meredith” and remember that it was positive and it gives them the courage to find a therapist again.